Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.
Instead I asked friends and fellow bloggers, who have had Japanese boyfriends or are even married to a Japanese man, to share their personal experience with us.
” “If you can both speak the other person’s language, there are probably going to be disagreements about what language to speak.
My husband and I have a system where we swap languages every day – so today is an English day, and tomorrow is Japanese.
These are the types of guys I feel we foreign girls encounter most. ” I think that’s generally a big problem – not only when trying to find an “honest” relationship, but also true friends.
I’ve heard from many people that they were just “used” as an opportunity to get free English lessons (or whatever their native language was).
But there’s nothing we can really do other than keep studying and keep trying.
So for that part, a significant amount of patience might be necessary.” “Another difference I noticed has to do with taking care of the household.
I guess because by then I’d been in Japan long enough that I knew my way around and I had lived with two Japanese host families, so I have a good sense of Japanese manners and customs.
However, the deeper things went, the more difficult it was to understand each other.
Even when we broke up it was long and drawn out and he wanted to ‘stay friends’ which I’ve heard is what most Japanese guys like to do.
After publishing the article “The Truth About Dating In Japan As A Foreigner” a lot of female readers asked me what it’s like to date a Japanese guy.
Many seemed to be interested in cultural differences and resulting problems in the relationship between a foreign woman and a Japanese man.